In the movie The Trap, it is said that psychologist Lang was criticized for linking “the struggle for power and control, which he had uncovered in the family” with the struggle for power and control in the world. It was said that this link had helped spread the paranoia of people believing that our society is purposely controlling our lives and that this starts within our closest relationships. Via using Game Theory during examining human interaction, Lang took 20 couples in Britain and asked each individual Game Theory analyzed questions regarding the couples behavior towards each other: why they act in a certain way and what it really means when the individual asks for something or makes a statement.
Analyzing the so-called “coded answer,” he found out that couples used their actions towards each other consciously to manipulate and influence their spouse. He claimed that the partners would act in a form of kindness and love, in order to control and dominate each other.
Certainly it is a bit intense to link action from a relationship to extreme controlling mechanisms of the entire world, but I find his observation very interesting and am not too critical about it. Isn’t it totally normal that people act purposely in a specific way, because they want a certain reaction from one another?
Isn’t it normal that every one plays some secret game, in order to get some sort of reaction, like attention, attraction, admiration or desire?
I agree that it is exaggerated that an individual’s desire is so high, “that the partner could never fulfill it,” but to a certain degree who wants a perfect partner? Would that not be boring? Certainly families should not be “control machines,” but every one plays some sort of selfish game and isn’t that, to some point, even a healthy protection for your own sake?
When it comes to the basics of true love, I would agree that in a healthy relationship one should equally love each other and not play games.
p.s.: But if you don’t have Hugh Hefner as your lover, maybe some secret-games could spice up your love.
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http://jezebel.com/5134284/women-orgasm-more-with-rich-men-claim-researchers
